When the girls finally got to my office, of course they came in individually or there may have been another fight in my office. I asked each how the fight got started. They both had the same story.
I wanted to hear Girl Two’s side of the story. I called her in. Girl Two. I was expecting to hear another version of the story. Girl Two said, “She was lookin’ at me. You know Miss. She can’t look at me.”
The whole fight was about “lookin’ at me.” They received the appropriate punishment along with six weeks of sessions with the social and conflict management counselor on campus.
I am glad to say I had a good counselor and the girls learned to accept the fact that people may look at you from time to time for various reason.
I had to wonder as I went through the rest of the day, who was “lookin’ at me" and how do they interpret what they see?